Fights and arguments are normal for
relationships, but it’s also important to note
that we can’t allow them happen for too
long, as that can lead to the end of the
Here are some ways you can easily handle
those fights when they crop up.
AVOID TRADING BLAMES
Trading blames has never helped a situation,
instead it worsens it. You’ve had a fight,
fine, what you need to do is figure out a way
to end it, not fuel it. There’s no point
thinking of how the argument started in the
first place, you’ll only further complicate
DON’T RECALL PREVIOUS FIGHTS
It’s very easy for you to want to do a little
‘throwback’ during or after a heated
argument with your partner, after all, you’re
angry, but it’s not advisable, things will only
escalate from there. Let it go, and focus on
how you can mend the relationship.
DON’T DISCOUNT FEELINGS
Speak your feelings and address the feelings
of your partner, showing your interest in
their emotional state. Let your partner know
that most things he/she says that’s
upsetting him/her equally might be upsetting
to you too as a human being.
AVOID THE URGE TO CRITICIZE
Criticising your partner’s personality will only
aggravate the situation, especially if you do
it deliberately. Do not insult your partner, but
talk about the specific actions that upset
you. Be kind enough to let him or her know
his/her actions that hurt you but do not
generalize on his/her behaviour.
REMEMBER THERE’S A DIFFERENT POINT OF VIEW FROM YOURS
Arguments ensue because people disagree,
which is normal as I already mentioned.
What is also normal is you understanding
that you could be wrong, while your partner
is right. That’s why it’s good to take a
pause, and consider their own point of view.
Listen to them, and give their opinion a
thought. Even if they’re wrong, don’t run it
down, subtly explain why you can’t accept
their own opinion.
IT’S NEVER TOO LATE TO WALK AWAY
Disagreements cause arguments, and
arguments cause fights. Sometimes the
difference between a small misunderstanding
and a full-blown fight is the decision to walk
away. If things seem like they’re about to
get out of hand, just get up and leave for
After you leave, come back later, when
they’re calmer and more relaxed.
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